The worried stages of pregnancy...hidden in the terms and conditions we never read.

 

We see the plus sign...the two lines...the positive.

Immediately our female minds begin to twirl and swirl...

Shock.

Excitement.

How should we tell our husbands.

Baby names.

Baby clothes.

We are in love with this little one already.

We share our news..we are sooooo happy...and then.

....and THEN! ...we feel a pinch. see some blood. have a cramp.

The worry sets in...and the questions begin?

Is the baby okay? Am I going to miscarry? Was it the unheated lunchmeat? Was it last night's "adventure" in bed? Did I walk too fast? Did I walk to slow? OH my goodness... cue the panic and tears!!!!

What? You're saying Yes! Yes! Yes! to yourself as you read this?

Of course you are...becaaaaaause ...this is NORMAL!

We can't see what is happening inside of our bodies...and we have trouble handling the unknown.

Our only choice is to.... wait ...and pray and wait and trust and pray and wait...

...so badly we want to get to the magical week of 12, 16, 20..whatever it may be.

Then..phew.. we feel safe.

UNTIL....

We hear a story of a baby in the NICU born at 25 weeks and hooked up to life support.

A whole new worry sets in. 

Oh...It doesn't stop there. 

Let's talk about the 3 worrisome phases of pregnancy.

Phase 1. 

Am I going to miscarry? Can I eat this? Did I kill my baby with a second cup of coffee? Can I run? Can I stretch? Can I lay on my back? Is the sun dangerous? 

Phase 2. 

Is my baby okay? Will he/she be born early? Are they growing enough? Do I get this blood test? Am I diabetic? What is an RH factor for?

Phase 3. 

Why isn't the baby moving? Is this a stretch mark? Is my bladder going to fall out when I push out the baby? Am I going to die in childbirth..it still happens you know! What about my husband? Will he remarry...will she be a good mom to my unborn baby? Will my husband love her more? Who will take care of the other children? Will they wrap the antique Christmas ornaments properly? Will they remember to feed my sourdough starter? The new wife better sleep on the couch...Grrr. She better not touch my husband! He's mine! She's there only for companionship and to cook dinner!!! Will she cook healthy? Ahhhhhhhh.......

These thoughts are very real to us, aren't they? I'll be honest here....

I'm writing from phase 3...practically on death's doorstep thinking this could be my last Fall season. 

Here it is ladies.....we need to RELAX!!! WE are not in control. God is.

...and if we trust Him..then whatever He has in store is what we need to be okay with.

This doesn't mean we won't have heartache...because we will.

However...worrying doesn't change anything.

In fact..while worrying...we lose the joy of the process. We lose any hope of peace God offers. 

Aaaaaalll this to say....

You are not alone with these thoughts. 

Most women have them....I'm even going to go out on a limb and say all women have them.

It's in our nature to worry about the precious life growing inside of us. 

Most likely..you are going to be fine!!! If you're struggling...message me and I'll walk you off the ledge. Haha.... ;) 

Join us next time when we discuss...

How to worry after your baby is born and then toddler worries and then new driver anxiety and then college and moving out and ladies, ladies, ladies....FYI...it never stops!!! We don't realize what we signed up for! It must have been hidden somewhere in the terms and conditions we never read.  

Dear God...please give peace to all of us moms worrying about our precious offspring. 

XxOo